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Question: My 16-year-old friend was sent to intensive outpatient drug rehab & foster care for 3 months & wont see me?

(Posted by: Chris on 2008-08-26 06:16:38)

He says his foster mom is very anal and wont let him hang out or call me since im in my late 20's. Plus, he started dating a 23- year- old 'recovering' crystal- meth addict he found from his group therapy. His foster mom allows that relationship but not ours. I've always been clean and sober. Anyway, my friend is bi- polar, ADD, anxiety, h.s. dropout, parents never married and split, and he now works at micky dees full time. I went to see him at his work and he basically acknowldged my presence for 5 seconds, but he wouldnt come out to talk to me. He went in the back hiding. My question is: do you think he will contact me when he "gets out of foster care " next month or is he blowing me off because he has a new bf or some other reason? He was only addicted to weed by the way.

Posted by: Macpark Melting on 2008-08-26, 06:25:26

There's really no way to know what he'll do once he is out of foster care. Perhaps his foster mom is creeped out at the fact that you are pushing 30 and friends with someone so young. I'm surprised she's allowing him to go out with the 23-year-old as well. At 16 years old, 23 is much too old for a boyfriend. If they are having sexual relations, in some states this would be considered statutory rape.

Posted by: FTW on 2008-08-26, 06:27:34

You're in your late 20's and pursuing a 16 year old? Can you say "statutory rape "? Leave the child be, let him work through his problems. If you really had a friendship, he'll contact you when he's ready.

Posted by: Michael A on 2008-08-26, 11:37:18

Whether because of his foster mom, or because of his crystal meth boyfriend, he does not seem to be as into you, as you are into him. That is sad for you, but you seem like a caring, thoughtful young man, as well as clean living. I think you should look for someone else to be romantic with, and someone over 18 would also be safer for you in case anyone tried to be mean and invoke the law. You're a nice guy. You will find a nice boyfriend. Be brave, my friend.