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Question: Sex addiction at 15.... serious question, please help me?

(Posted by: wanna go to the party she gon go on 2010-07-11 15:54:44)

I can't believe i'm saying this stuff because it's so personal but ... i really need help. first i need to say i was molested by an older second cousin when i was 4 and i've always had issues with getting to know guys, it's hard for me to trust people at first.. but when i was 11, i had "real " sex for the first time, with a 16 year old boy and we saw each other probably once a week or so for a year until he moved. since then i've been with lots of other boys, but i've never had a boyfriend, but i have sex at least 2 or 3 times a week and not always with the same guy, and this has been going on since i was 14. i also masturbate every day, sometimes more than once. my family is very catholic and the only person that knows about my molestation is my mother, and she acts like it's my fault. but the thing is that it's not just me having sex to have sex... i HAVE to have it, it's like a drug or something, if i don't have it i feel sick and ugly and depressed, and suicidal. besides that some of the people that i've been with have offered me drugs and i don't aways say no because im willing to do almost anything. there have even been a few times without protection and i don't even ask them to use protection even though of course i dont want to get pregnant. so please, im only 15 and i dont need ur judgment, i need help because i feel like a disgusting b*tch right now.. i've never felt worse, maybe i should just hang myself? =/

Posted by: ☮ Pangel ☮ on 2010-07-11, 15:59:36

Wow babe .... you need help and support right now not judgement !! you need to tell someone ... other than your mother none of this is your fault and yes sex can be like a drug I am also worried about the other drugs you can get help , you can get over this ... you can have a life but you seriously have to get help can you confide in a teacher/ school guidance/ counseller ... anyone you trust !! much love to you ... you deserve so much more than this ((((HUGS)))))

Posted by: sparton223 on 2010-07-11, 15:56:30

A serious question on Y!A? Wow. Well, you can probably get counseling or professional help. Yahoo Answers isn't exactly the best place to ask for help with something this serious.

Posted by: luke on 2010-07-11, 15:56:58

You should stop listening to britney spears, "if you seek amy " her songs are loaded with subliminal messages to do it

Posted by: nobody on 2010-07-11, 15:57:36

You should seek medical advise.

Posted by: PaulCyp on 2010-07-11, 15:58:07

You shouldn't feel "disgusting ". God doesn't see you that way. But you should recognize that you are in serious need of professional help, and seek some.

Posted by: Wanna bite? on 2010-07-11, 15:59:19

It is OK really. You are not different than the rest of us. We are all messed up like yourself. We use different avenues. I use drugs and alcohol. You use sex. It is not your fault and you are not disgusting. You are a human. Just like the rest of us. You need to find a good friend. Do it.

Posted by: Nicky on 2010-07-11, 15:59:38

You need professional guidance and help and it sounds like if you don't your going to have some painful years ahead including prostitution and drugs

Posted by: Stephanie S on 2010-07-11, 16:00:49

You need to speak to a counselor. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of sexual issues; if you deal with your feelings now, and your sexual abuse history, you have a shot at a normal, healthy, sexual life. The other things you can do is talk to your priest. He has to keep it in confidence, and you won't have to approach your family for help getting into counseling. Having your sins forgiven by him, and having him counsel you might be a great help to you, and your family need know nothing about it. Good luck!

Posted by: Premaholic on 2010-07-11, 16:00:52

You need to talk with a professional. Your molestation has given you a warped perception of reality and love. Peace, Love and Blessings.... Love is not "outside " of you.........

Posted by: Mr.noitall on 2010-07-11, 16:15:30

You are suffering from low self esteem, this is quite common with people that have been the victims of sex abuse in their childhoods, even the 16 yr. old was abusing you. You need to come to a place where you don't view yourself in the way that you do, there is no single answer or quick fix, please see a qualified professional, you can get a referral from your school nurse( you don't have to tell her anything, just say you feel depressed) or your doctor, Please do this, may God Bless You.

Posted by: Contemplative Chanteuse IDK TIRH on 2010-07-11, 19:10:04

First of all, I'm so sorry. Not only for the abuse you endured at such a very young age, but for your mom's lack of support and for your continuing to deal with the after-effects for so long on your own. Let me assure you that there's nothing disgusting about you. There is, however so much that is disgusting about the abuse. You are not the abuse. You didn't cause the abuse. You don't deserve and didn't/ don't have what you needed/ need to deal with the consequences. No child does. You didn't ask for this. You didn't get into this on your own. You also can't get out of it on your own. I understand, particularly since your mother has blamed you for your own abuse, that trust is very difficult for you to come by. Honey, if it weren't you wouldn't be human. There's a sense in which "safe " people seem scary, and dangerous people are familiar. Your challenge, unfair though it may be, is to find someone safe to help you. Someone who is stable and nurturing and skilled at helping you process what you've been through and learn to trust again. There's no quick fix, but there's hope in the process of healing. You are not that event in your life. Your life does not have to be defined by what you suffered. Your identity is not in your victimization. You'll find who you are as you work with a counselor to find your own voice again. While you cannot undo what happened, with help you can transform it into a source of strength instead of a source of shame. I don't in any way want to minimize what happened to you or the pain you feel. But honey, what you're describing is normal. There are people who will believe you. There are people who can help you. The sooner you find them and start the process, the sooner you change the trajectory of your life. ((((((hugs))))))